Q: I'm 23, and was wondering if it is a normal age to be a fetishist, or if participants are usually older?

Michael Peters, Stockport

The real question you have to ask is 'Does this fetish make me happy' If the answer is yes, then what's the problem? When I was studying to become a teacher, the department found out about my Latex website and I was given the choice of closing my site or being kicked out of school. Kick me out? Screw them! I walked out! A lot of people criticised my decision to pursue modelling, especially my mother. To her, it wasn't normal to abandon security and regular pay in favour of a bohemian life. But it's up to you to decide what to do. If you want to be 'normal', you might end up like a sheep, following others while dreaming of a different lifestyle.

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I've been into Latex for as long as I can remember, but while my partner is into bondage, she has no idea about the world of Latex. Any idea how to turn her on to it a bit?

*AWF, Edmonton

A: I get asked this question a lot. When I first saw Latex at a sex shop, my man got so excited it freaked me out. I thought I was losing my seductress power over him and felt kind of beaten by rubber. Humans can get very insecure when it comes to change. I left the store thinking I was angry with my boyfriend, while in fact I was angry with myself for being scared of Latex. And because I don't like being scared, I secretly bought the dress and soon found myself in love with rubber. Now, your partner. You could start by showing her photos of Latex clothing and tell her how sexy she'd look in it. Ladies love fashion. If she opens up on the idea of Latex and you buy her a piece, pick something she will like, even if it's not necessarily what you want her to wear. Gasmasks could scare her off! Be patient and don¹t rush anything. After all, you're already lucky to have an open-minded lady who's willing to tie your ass up!