Hello my favourite Bizarre freaks! Today, I feel playful and in the mood to teach, so why don't you throw that chewing gum in the garbage while I put on my square glasses, hum? For this first lesson, I thought I could briefly give you a little introduction to Fetishism and BDSM.

FETISH

I was once interviewed on TV by a psychologist for an educational sex show. She asked my definition of fetishism, and I told her a fetish is a sexual arousal for an object, like it is for me with Latex clothes. She asked me then if I absolutely need to wear Latex every time I want sex and I answered no. So she declared I was not a real fetishist, because according to her studies, real fetishists absolutely need their fetish to be sexually aroused. Well, that's maybe how doctors describe fetishism from the books they've read but in today's reality, it's bullshit to only use the word 'fetish' to describe a pathological sexual deviance! From what I have witnessed on the scene, fetishism is used positively by a vast number of people to spice up their sex lives, explore new sensations, and to find new ways to seduce and keep the passion alive between partners. For me, wearing Latex when I have sex is a bonus, a cherry on the cake. If you eat cake every day, it loses its funky flavour and then you get sick of it. Bottom line, nowadays a fetish can actually be a positive thing, not necessarily a disease!

BDSM

Lots of people mix up fetish with BDSM, probably because we often see BDSM players wearing fetish clothes. But BDSM does not mean fetish, and vice versa. Those letters stand for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. To play, one has to be dominant, the other submissive. BDSM games start with mindplay and can be followed by physical games where most probably the dom will use various methods to 'punish' his sub, releasing endorphins, which cause physical pleasure. Mind games can be as cute as asking a sub to hold a glass of wine for you. As for physical games, at fetish events I often see people getting spanked, whipped or tied up. Now, I'm sure some of you think these games are like scenes from a horror film like Hellraiser, with blood everywhere. But believe me, limits are usually set by the sub and clearly talked about before any play begins, and players are expected to respect them. Personally, I have played more often as a sub; it's nice to just let go of responsibilities for a while and be taken care of. I admit, though, I am not very obedient. If I feel like it, I can switch and be a dom. I have experimented with lots of physical games like wax, needles and my favourite of all, electric shocks (like a violet wand, not my finger in the wall outlet, you silly!) But that's another story...

Want to know more about fetishism and BDSM? Write me at Biancabeauchamp@videotron.ca or hunt me down at Latexlair.com